Patience Expires
A man's role is to lead, naturally, but leadership starts to become something else entirely when he is the one always initiating. Always reaching out. Always making the plans. Always filling the silence. At first, he does it willingly. He tells himself she is busy. That she is stressed. That maybe this is simply how she is. So he keeps carrying the conversation. Keeps making the effort. Keeps convincing himself that if he leads long enough, eventually she will follow. But after a while, something starts to wear down. He feels the gap before he can explain it. He notices that if he does not call, there is no call. If he does not text, there is silence. If he does not make the plan, nothing happens. And eventually the effort starts to dry up. Not because he stopped caring. Because effort without reciprocity is labour. Nobody can sustain labour forever without some kind of return. The problem is that most men will never say this. They will not frame it as a need. They will not ...