Comparison is the thief of joy
"Just focus on yourself, don't compare yourself to anyone." We like to throw that around like it's some sort of universal truth. And I don't fully buy it anymore. Because focusing on yourself only works if there's actually something there to focus on. If your page is blank, then "focusing on yourself" can easily turn into staring at nothing. "Your time will come." Who told you that? No seriously, who told you? Because I need to have a word with them. Nobody sat down with the universe and got a confirm that good things are going to happen if you just stay patient and keep your head down. It sounds comforting, sure. But comforting and true aren't always the same thing. Personally, I think there's value in looking at people who are ahead of you. Not to feel small, but to spark a little bit of urgency. Because chances are, someone your age, maybe with fewer advantages, figured something out sooner. They made moves you haven't made y...