Beat around the bush
I will not soften what I have to say simply to make it easier to hear. I will not waste time dressing up the truth for people who only want comfort, not honesty. And I will not pretend bad behavior is acceptable just because of who it comes from. People do not usually object to what is being said. They object to having to hear it at all. If someone does not want to confront the truth about themselves, they will find something else to focus on. The tone becomes the problem. The wording becomes the problem. The timing becomes the problem. Anything except the actual point being made. I am honest about what I notice, regardless of who I am speaking to. I think before I speak. I do not say things in anger, and I do not speak from resentment. When I address someone's behaviour, it is because I have noticed something specific that needs to be said. So if I tell you that you lied, that you were manipulative, that you were selfish, that you keep changing the story whenever you are challenge...