Do you…

You know what? There comes a point where you just don’t have the energy to keep explaining to people what they did wrong anymore. Honestly, it gets tiring. Tired of putting in the effort to call out bad behaviour or try to make people understand how their actions affect you. It’s not that you don’t care, it’s just that you realise some things aren’t worth the energy. People are going to be who they are, and if they’re not willing to listen or change, that’s on them.

The thing is, we’re all old enough to realise when we’re doing something wrong. We know when we’re crossing boundaries or acting in a way that we know is going to upset someone. And if, after knowing that, we still choose to do it anyway, that’s the clearest sign that we don’t really care about the other person. At that point, it’s not about misunderstanding or being unaware, it’s about making a conscious decision to act in a way that disregards someone else’s feelings. And if someone is doing that to you, constantly, it’s time to accept that they’re just not invested in you the way you are in them.

For so long, you try to make sense of situations, to explain why things hurt, why certain actions don’t sit right with you. But the truth is, when someone is constantly showing you who they are, whether it’s through their actions or their words, and they’re not taking responsibility for it, what’s the point in continuing to push? There’s only so much you can do. You reach a place where you realise that if they can’t see it, then it’s not your job to keep pointing it out. You’ve got enough on your plate, and you’re done chasing after people who aren’t willing to meet you halfway.

Instead of stressing over what’s not working or how people aren’t stepping up, you let it go. Just focus on yourself, and if people want to be part of your life, they’ll step up. If not, that’s cool too. You’re not going to keep draining yourself, trying to make everyone else understand or fix things that they don’t even want to change.

So, to anyone who’s been out here acting like they don’t get it, you do you. If you don’t see what you did wrong, or if you don’t care, that’s fine. Nobody’s going to keep explaining it. There’s a life to live. Be blessed, do what makes you happy. The focus stays on that. If paths cross again, then maybe there’s a vibe. But if not, that’s cool too. Life’s too short to keep trying to convince people to see things from your perspective.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​