Sometimes You Just Get It Wrong (2)

To be fair though… 

You can actually be a good person and still get treated poorly, shit happens.

• You can be loyal and still get cheated on.
• You can be honest and still get lied to.
• You can be genuine and still be doubted.
• You can be kind and still be taken advantage of.
• You can be consistent and still deal with inconsistency.
• You can bring peace and still get toxicity in return.
• You can show effort and still be taken for granted.
• You can be emotionally mature and still deal with someone who isn’t.

Sometimes it’s not about you lacking anything, it’s about the other person lacking the capacity, the readiness, or even the character to meet you where you are.

Yes, work on yourself. Yes, grow. Yes, become someone who can sustain the kind of love you want. 

But also understand this: being good doesn’t guarantee being treated good. You don’t always receive what you give!

• Sometimes you just chose wrong.
• Sometimes you stayed longer than you should have.
• Sometimes potential looked amazing
• Sometimes you outgrow what once felt perfect.
• Sometimes you grew, and they didn’t.
• Sometimes they grew, and you didn’t.
• Sometimes you wanted it to work so badly
• Sometimes you loved the idea more than the person. 
• Sometimes you ignored red flags.
• Sometimes they weren’t honest about who they were.
• Sometimes people change.
• Sometimes life just does what it does.
• Sometimes comfort made you overlook incompatibility.
• Sometimes you did your best and that still wasn’t enough for that situation.

That doesn’t mean you weren’t deserving. It just means the alignment  just wasn’t there.

So yeah, you should still grow into the love you want. Absolutely. Just don’t gaslight yourself into thinking every bad experience happened because you weren’t enough.

Two things can exist at once:
You can keep improving yourself…
and still acknowledge that you definitely deserve better.