For the night

Some of you will always be the highlight of someone’s weekend, but never the person they bring home to their family. You’ll be the one they call at midnight, but never the one they call their partner. You’ll be exciting, fun, unforgettable in the moment… but when it comes to forever, somehow your name never comes up.

And that’s the question worth sitting with: why?

It’s rarely about looks or intelligence. Most of the time, it’s about what you put out, the way you present yourself, the standards and boundaries you hold, how you let people treat you, and the version of yourself you show to the world.

When someone is looking for a long-term partner, they’re not just looking for someone who is fun and attractive. They’re looking for someone steady. Someone consistent. Someone with depth, values, and a sense of self that goes beyond a good time.

So, if you keep ending up in casual flings, short-lived connections, or relationships that never go anywhere, it’s worth being honest about your part in it. Have you been so focused on being desirable that you forgot to be dependable? So focused on being exciting that you never showed any substance?

Start taking yourself seriously. Raise your standards. Be intentional about what you allow and what you walk away from. The right person won’t just want you for a moment, but you have to decide first that you’re worth more than that yourself.

Because, honestly, how people treat you is often just a reflection of what you’ve quietly accepted.