terrible idea.

There is a particular kind of person that gets by entirely on the fact they are attractive.

Not pleasant. Not interesting. Not especially good company. Just attractive enough that people keep tolerating behavior that would be intolerable in anybody else.

You know the type. Every conversation with them feels like a test of your patience. They are irritating. Self-absorbed. Impossible to reason with. Being around them is like voluntarily putting your head through drywall.

And yet, every now and then, there you are. Back again.

Not because you suddenly discovered hidden depth. Not because they changed. Certainly not because you started liking them.

No. It is because being annoying does not make somebody any less desirable.

You can dislike everything about a person and still want them. Those two things are not mutually exclusive. Attraction is not some noble, rational process where only the worthy are rewarded. Sometimes it is deeply inconvenient. Sometimes the person you are most drawn to is also the person you would least trust to hold a conversation without making you consider arson.

There are people I would not let borrow ten pounds. People I would struggle to spend an uninterrupted afternoon with. People whose personalities make me want to walk directly into traffic.

And yet if they texted at 1:17 in the morning with something reckless and badly spelled, there is a very real chance I would be on my way.

That does not mean I suddenly respect them. It does not mean I have changed my mind about who they are. It just means I am honest enough to admit that attraction and admiration are not the same thing.

I can think you are unbearable and still think you look good with your back arched.

I can know, with complete certainty, that you are a headache in human form and still decide, every so often, that perhaps I am due for another migraine.

The mistake people make is assuming desire means approval. It does not. There are people you want because they are good for you, and there are people you want despite the fact they are a terrible idea.

Some people are a terrible idea with  an excellent back side view.

And unfortunately, sometimes that is enough.