Desirability

A lot of people often overestimate their desirability. Some people are not as qualified to think that they’re the prize. A lot of factors are included when looking at these things, lifestyle choices, physique, stability, finances, your history, the millage and how you’ve carried yourself over time. Some people have passed the stage of believing they can still pick and choose who gets to have them, like people are queuing up for them, when really, the options they think they have are not there.

Desirability changes over time. How you carry yourself, how you’ve aged, what you’ve built, how stable you are, how you behave in public spaces, how accessible you are, it’s how your past relationships went, how people speak on your name, how you treat people. It all counts.

But some people are still stuck in an outdated version of themselves. They think they still hold the same value they once did. What used to attract everyone doesn’t carry the same weight anymore. Standards have changed and so has your market!

The truth is that some people are only being chosen now because someone else couldn’t get who they really wanted. When you’ve made too many poor choices, when your lifestyle’s messy, people don’t chase you anymore. They tolerate you. And that’s a big difference.

It’s not like everyone loses their appeal with time. Some people evolve with it. They become more attractive because they’ve grown, learned, matured. But others just stayed the same, still talking about what they used to have, still thinking they’re better than they are.

At some point, you have to face the truth. You can’t move like the prize if you’ve stopped improving. Desirability isn’t just what you once were. It’s who you are now.