ABLE

Being “able” can create a weird kind of tension, even between people who are meant to be friends. You’d think doing things for people you care about would build love, respect and loyalty… but sometimes it does the complete opposite. People can actually start to dislike you just because you can.

“They can do this for me but I can’t do it for myself.”

“Why can they do so much for me but I can’t do the same for them?”

Your effort, your consistency, your ability, instead of being seen as showing love, starts showing someone their own inability to get things done. And when people don’t like what they see in that mirror, they project it back onto you. Suddenly you’re “doing too much,” or “moving funny,” when all you’ve done is show up.

Someone’s lack-off can turn into the very reason they start trying to show you up. Who could imagine that? Being helpful, caring and supportive can be the very reason you stop being friends.

All because you were able.