I’m your manz, not your man.

I’m your manz. Not your man.

We might be close. We might talk often, chill, have serious convos, and even hold each other down when life gets tough, but you shouldn’t start to confuse that with relationship duties. I’m your friend, not your boyfriend. So you shouldn’t expect me to behave like you’re the love of my life.

Yeah, I’ll support you. Yeah, sometimes I’ll pull up when you need it. I’ll be there when I should be. And yeah, there’ll be moments where I treat you to something nice because that’s just how I show love to my people. 

Thing is though, I’m not going to always go above and beyond for you every time. I’m not doing over-the-top favours, spending on you every time we go out, or treating you like royalty. That’s not my role, and it’s definitely not what I signed up for.

Too often, the line between friendships is blurry, not because of what’s been said, but because people start expecting things like it's their God given right. Then all of a sudden, I’m made to feel like I’m inconsiderate for not agreeing to do something because I don’t feel like it.

You’re not my girl, so you shouldn’t get in your feelings when I don’t treat you like you are. If I do something out of love or care, take it for what it is. A moment, not an obligation, because the second it turns into an expectation, or you try to be cheeky and make me feel bad for not doing something for you. I will no longer feel like doing certain things for you. It’s no longer coming from me willingly, It feels like it’s being forced out of me.

I’m your g. Your dargg. Your amigo. Your friend. Not your back-breaker. Not your love-maker. Not your boyfriend.