Apologise

You ever clock how some people just cannot say sorry? Like genuinely, it baffles me. They’ll know they’ve done you dirty, and instead of just holding their hands up, they start acting weird. Giving attitude, throwing shade, switching up like you’re the problem.

You’ll tell them how something they did made you feel, and somehow that turns into them sulking or shutting you down, like they’re the one that’s hurt. Nah, come on. How did we get here? How did your actions cause pain, but now I’m the bad guy for bringing it up? It’s draining.

I’ve had people look me dead in the eye, knowing they messed up, and still try to spin the narrative. They’ll avoid the actual apology and instead hit you with stuff like “I didn’t mean it like that” or “You’re too sensitive.” A way to avoid accountability and make you doubt your own feelings. And if you’re not careful, you’ll start questioning yourself like maybe you were in the wrong for speaking up.

The worst part? When they get mad at you for being mad at them. Like what? I’m upset because of something you did, and now you’re catching an attitude? That’s wild. Imagine hurting someone and then flipping on them when they react. That’s not even miscommunication anymore, that’s just selfishness and a crazy lack of accountability.

I don’t know why saying “I’m sorry, I messed up” is so hard for some people. It’s two seconds of honesty that could save so much problems. But instead, they’ll do everything else, gaslight, ignore, act cold, maybe even try and guilt trip you like they’re the ones suffering. All of that energy, just to avoid being accountable.

Everyone slips up. I do. You do. That’s life. But if you care about someone, if you actually value that connection, then when you hurt them, intentionally or not, you take that on the chin and apologise. That’s all people want sometimes.