Fair

I know I’m not perfect. Never claimed to be. I’ve made poor decisions, reacted off impulse, said things I wish I could take back. I’ve had moments where I didn’t consider how someone else felt, moments where I let my pride get the better of me. I’m not going to pretend I’ve never been in the wrong, because I have.

But what I struggle with is how people act like you was the only one moving mad. Like I single-handedly caused the issues. Like they were calm and collected the whole way through and I just came in and flipped the table for no reason. That’s the bit that's upsetting because that version of the story? It’s missing context and context always matters.

I’ve been in situations where I’ve bit my tongue so many times it started to feel normal. Where I stayed quiet just to avoid an argument. Where I explained myself more times than I should’ve had to. I’ve sat through conversations where the energy felt off but I let it slide because I didn’t want to come across as too emotional, but no one really brings that up. It’s just my reactions that get remembered, not what led to them.

It’s easy to highlight someone’s flaws when you’re not willing to look at your own. Easier to say “you hurt me” than to admit “I might’ve pushed you too.” But real accountability doesn’t come with conditions. You can’t demand honesty from others and not be real yourself.

Sometimes people remember the parts that paint them in a better light and blur out the rest. That’s human, I get it. But when that keeps happening, it starts to feel like your side of the story never mattered in the first place. Like your intentions, your patience, your quiet efforts to keep the peace weren’t even noticed.

I’m not saying I am perfect. I’m just saying I wasn’t the only one who got it wrong at times.

And that’s all I ever really want, you know. Balance. A bit of fairness. If we’re gonna talk about how it ended, let’s talk about how we both played a part. Let’s not rewrite the narrative and make it seem like one of us was the hero while the other was the villain because both of us had our fair share of things to complain about, others just tend to complain more than others.