Change

People think they can change someone. They think if they say the right thing, give the right advice, or offer enough support, the person will finally do better. It’s easy to believe that if you care enough, you can change people, but that’s not how it works.

People don’t change because you want them to. They change when they’re ready. You can talk, explain, warn them, even go out of your way to make things easier, but if they’re not in a place where they want to change, it’s a waste of energy. 

I’ve been in situations where I’ve seen someone make the same mistakes over and over, and no matter how much I tried, nothing shifted. It’s like talking to a wall. They heard me, but they weren’t listening.

The funny thing is, when someone’s not ready to change, all that effort you put into trying to change them drains you. You end up carrying the weight of someone else’s choices, stressing about things that aren’t even yours to fix. You’re left frustrated, wondering why nothing’s changing, when the truth is, it was never your battle to fight.

It’s not about giving up on people, it’s about understanding that you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. You can support, encourage, and be there when they’re ready, but you can’t force that moment. It has to come from them. I’ve learned that the hard way. And honestly, once you stop trying to change people, life gets a lot easier. 

Until then, don’t lose yourself trying to fix what’s not yours to fix.