Accessible.

 

When you give too many people access to you, it naturally lowers your value. It’s just how things work. When something is too available, it loses its appeal. Think about it. If you could walk into an exclusive club anytime without a wait, it wouldn’t feel as special. When you’re always accessible, people stop seeing you as someone they need to value or prioritise.

Being too available can also give off the impression that you don’t value yourself enough to be selective. If everyone can have a piece, there’s nothing left that feels valuable. People give respect towards what is harder to have, and when you make someone work for your time and attention, they naturally appreciate it more. 

If you’re always there for people, constantly giving without limits, they start to expect it. It’s easy for them to forget how much effort you put in. If you’re constantly seen with different partners, always entertaining multiple people, it sends the wrong message. It makes the next person question whether they should take you seriously. No one wants to feel like they’re just another option or part of a rotation. And let’s be real, no one wants to commit to someone who’s been touched by too many others. People want to feel like they’re stepping into something meaningful, not stepping into something that’s easy to pass around.

When people don’t have constant access to you, they naturally value the moments they do get. It creates a sense of importance, making them put more effort into maintaining the relationship. People want what feels exclusive, and when they realise your time and presence aren’t handed out easily, they’re more likely to step up and meet you at your level.

Being overly accessible can also cloud your judgment. When you’re spread too thin, it’s hard to see who’s genuinely there for you and who’s just around out of convenience. Limiting the people who have access to you helps you filter out the right and wrong people and focus on those who actually deserve your attention.

When you’re always available and pouring your energy into everyone and everything else, you end up drained. You leave yourself with nothing for the people and things that matter. And it’s a lonely feeling when you realise you’ve given so much and barely get anything in return. 

People treat you based on the standards you set. If you give access to too many people, they’ll take it for granted.