What If Your Friend Is the Real Problem?

I saw something today that made me think, "I'm a firm believer that if my people don’t fuck with you, then I don’t fuck with you. Call me childish, idc. I know damn well there is a good reason they don’t fuck with you." At first, I was like yeah, makes sense but then I thought, what if my friend is actually the problem?

It’s easy to get caught up in that mentality. If my friend doesn't like you, I don’t like you either. No questions asked but sometimes we’re so deep in that mindset that we don’t even think to ask why. What actually happened? Who was really in the wrong? Am I backing my friends, just because?

We all know someone who is actually the villain but moves as if they are the victim. They’ll tell you their side of the story, make it sound like they were done dirty, and because your are they're friend, you believe them instantaneously but then later, when you step back and look at the bigger picture, you start seeing the little things. The way they talk about people, the way they spin situations, the way they always have an issue with someone and that’s when it hits you, maybe they were the problem all along.

It’s mad how we will check strangers for their behaviour but let our friends get away with the same things, just because we got love for them. We see their good side, the version of them that makes us laugh, that backs us in arguments, that’s always there when we need them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re like that with everyone. Just because they’re a good friend to you, doesn’t mean they’re a good person.

Loyalty is a good thing, but blind loyalty? That’s well... If my friend is wrong, I need to be able to put them in check, because if you can’t hold them accountable, then what’s the point?