Double standards

When it comes to casual dating, I’m pretty chill. I’ve never been the jealous type or one of those people who needs to dissect every little thing. I’m all about going with the flow and seeing where things go, as long as everyone’s being upfront.

I don’t get hung up on who you’re chatting with or whether you’re out on dates. Hey, I’m not sitting around obsessing over it either. We’ve all got our lives to live, and I’m all for people enjoying their freedom. But here’s the thing that trips me up... why does it seem like it’s a problem when I’m out having fun, but when you’re doing the same, it’s like no big deal?

That’s where the double standard really hits, and it’s something I just can’t ignore. It’s not just about staying out late or going to parties, it’s about the whole picture. If you can go on dates, chat with other people, and live your life without it being a big deal, then I should be able to do the same without feeling like I’m walking on a tightrope. It’s frustrating when it feels like their actions are seen as normal, but when I’m out here doing my thing, suddenly there’s this weird tension.

It’s not about keeping score or trying to one-up each other. It’s about fairness and respect. If you can freely explore your options, why should I feel guilty for doing the same? If you’re texting other people, hanging out with friends, or meeting new faces, that’s cool. But it’s only fair that I get the same freedom without it turning into an issue. It’s not about being tit-for-tat; it’s about mutual understanding and acknowledging that both of us have the right to live our lives on our own terms.

Honestly, what gets under my skin is when the rules seem different depending on who’s doing what. If you can casually talk to someone new or go out for a drink, I should be able to do that too without the side-eyes. Relationships, even casual ones, thrive on communication and trust, not on one person feeling like they have to constantly justify their actions while the other gets a free pass.

And here’s the thing, if you don’t want me going on dates, talking to other people, or doing my own thing, then show me that I’m the only one. Make me feel like I’m more than just an option, not just someone you keep around. If you want me to commit or be exclusive in any way, you need to put the effort in too. Actions speak louder than words, and if you want something different from me, then show it. I’m not saying I need constant attention, but I do need to feel like I matter in your life if that’s what you want from me.

I’m not asking for permission to live my life, and I’m definitely not looking to play games. I’m asking for equality in how we navigate things. If you’re cool with doing your thing, I should be able to do mine without feeling like I’m under scrutiny. It’s about setting clear expectations and respecting each other’s boundaries. 

At the end of the day, it’s about balance and fairness. If we’re both being honest and upfront, there’s no room for double standards. We can live our lives, enjoy our freedom, and still respect each other. That’s the only rule that really matters to me is fairness and mutual respect. If we can get that right, everything else falls into place.