If You Have to Say It, Are You Really It?

You ever notice how people love to tell you what they are? “I’m nonchalant,” “I’m humble,” “I’m real,” or even “I’m not like everybody else.” It’s funny because the more someone says it, the more you start to question if it’s actually true.

Take being nonchalant, for example. Real nonchalance isn’t loud. It doesn’t need an announcement. It’s in the way someone handles things quietly, without making a fuss. If you’re out here declaring to everyone how unbothered you are, chances are, you’re more bothered than you let on. True nonchalance just exists... it doesn’t need to be announced.

The same goes for humility. You ever heard someone say, “I’m the most humble person you’ll ever meet”? The irony is, the moment you say it, you’re proving the opposite. Humility is about letting your actions do the talking. It’s about staying grounded and not needing recognition for it. If you’re shouting about how humble you are, it’s less about humility and more about wanting people to see you a certain way.

"I’m real." Being real isn’t something you advertise... it’s something you live. People can tell when you’re authentic by the way you handle things, the way you treat others, and how consistent you are. 

“I’m different.” If you’re genuinely different, people will see it without you having to point it out. The loudest “I’m not like other people” types are often the ones doing the same thing as everyone else. Real individuality is quiet. It’s in how you think, how you carry yourself, and the unique vibe you bring to the table. If you have to keep saying it, it starts to sound like you’re convincing yourself.

And let’s not forget the “I’m a boss” crowd. You know, the ones who are always reminding everyone about how in control they are, how successful they are, or how much money they’re making. A real boss doesn’t need to say it... people just know. It’s in how they handle their business, the respect they command, and the results they get. 

Even confidence works like this. Someone who’s truly confident doesn’t need to tell you. They walk into a room, and you can just feel it. It’s in their energy, and the way they carry themselves. But when someone keeps saying, “I don’t care what people think of me” it usually feels like they’re trying to cover up something they’re insecure about.

The truth is, you don’t have to say what you are. Whether it’s being nonchalant, humble, real, or anything else, people will notice by how you carry yourself.